Abdus Sukkur, a 40-year-old Rohingya refugee and educator, sought refuge in Bangladesh’s E Block of Camp 15, following his perilous escape from Myanmar in 2017. Despite being educated, Sukkur harbored prejudiced views towards women, often disregarding their rights and education, and treating them disrespectfully. Once he pressured his wife to secure a substantial dowry from her father to start a new business. When his wife expressed disagreement, he resorted to physical abuse. Coerced, his father-in-law provided some dowry money. However, Abdus Sukkur’s demands for dowry continued as he sought funds to migrate illegally to Malaysia. When his wife refused, he subjected her to further physical abuse, accompanied by threats of a second marriage if she failed to fulfill the dowry demand. His biased attitude particularly affected his family life, where his wife endured verbal and physical abuse.
In the meanwhile, Bureau of Population, Refugees and Migration (BPRM) funded and the International Rescue Committee (IRC) supported “Delivering Health, Nutrition, and Livelihood, and Protection services to Rohingya Refugees and vulnerable host communities in Cox’s Bazar, Bangladesh” project staff arrived at his block. Volunteers from P, implementing partner, were in the process of identifying potential participants for their EMAP (Engaging Men for Accountable Practice) program. Intrigued by the details of the program, Sukkur developed an interest in participating.
Attending the EMAP sessions proved to be a turning point for Sukkur. The program not only helped him to realize the extent of his harmful behavior toward his wife but also instilled a deep understanding of gender equality, respect for women, and the importance of peaceful family life. Expressing genuine remorse for his past actions, he made a conscious decision to change. Today, Sukkur and his wife live in harmony, working together to take care of household duties and and prioritizing their children’s education. He has transformed into a respectful supporter of women’s rights, acting as an exemplar in his community.
“A few months ago, I had misconceptions about women, which negatively affected my family relationship. The EMAP program helped me understand gender equality and why men and women must work together for happiness. I now have a healthy equal relationship with my wife and have stopped my bad behavior”
Sukkur’s journey with the EMAP program marked a profound shift in his worldview, leading to a serene and fulfilled family life. His transformation serves as a beacon for his community, showcasing the power of positive change.
